Did you know that living in fear, or as it is so well put, "fight or flight" is so debilitating that it shuts down your proper breathing mechanisms and stymies digestion in an instant? It also keeps you from accomplishing anything.
So I have to ask you my friend, "Why live in fear?" If you think about it, 95% of your fears never even materialize. And need I remind you that life is not a dress rehearsal? Yesterday means nothing and tomorrow never comes! Get my drift?
People used to always ask me how I was able to always be so good with the ladies in my earlier years. Well...I don't exactly look like Brad Pitt and I'm not what I term the quintessential charmer - but I have one quality that has served me better than any personally and professionally - I have no fear of rejection nor it's outcome. I just asked more women out and than ANY of my friends. Some said "yes" - and "some said "no!" That's about as complicated as meeting girls was to me.
Everything in life is a numbers game! Everything.
I have a little book that I keep no farther than 10 feet away from me when I'm working called...
I Can't Accept Not Trying: Michael Jordan on the Pursuit of Excellence by (you guessed it) Michael Jordan, former Chicago Bulls star.
The book is amazing and I flip through it often. It is only 36 pages - but man o' man is it powerful when it comes to teaching you how to eliminate your fears.
Here's one of my favorite passages from Michael...
"I realized that if I was going to achieve anything in life I had to be aggressive. I had to get out there and go for it. I don't believe you can achieve anything by being passive. I know fear is an obstacle for some people, but it as an illusion to me.
Once I'm in there, I'm not thinking about anything except what I'm trying to accomplish. Any fear is an illusion. You think something is standing in your way, but nothing is really there. What is there is an opportunity to do your best and gain some success."
He's basically repeating the old saying...
"You have nothing to fear but fear itself.
So, if you're living in fear...
Stop whining, griping and moaning. In reality, nobody cares. Start with MJ's book if nothing else.