Sometime do an experiment. For one week, write down everything that people tell you they will do for you or themselves. Also, write down when it will supposedly be done. And don't leave anyone out...friends, spouse, family, co-workers, acquaintances, EVERYONE! Nobody is safe!
Then for the next 30 days, go back to your list and see what was really done. And then call people on it. Most will give you blank stares or a smug smirk. Some will act surprised and some will lie and say they have no idea what you're talking about. And then there's the very few who followed through. Thanks God for those precious soles!
Bottom line: Never take anyone's word at face value until they've proven themselves consistently. There's an old saying - "you'll see it when you believe it." I'm changing it to "only believe it when you see it!" Otherwise, you put on rose-colored glasses, become delusional, state goofy worthless positive affirmations to yourself, start believing in the minds-eye, the salesman takes you for everything you're worth, and then one day you end up locked in a nut-house wondering what just happened.
Think for yourself and make people earn your respect. And never believe anything anyone says who stands to profit from you - until they've proven worthy! Actions not words!
And please don't take this blog in a negative way until you try this experiment for yourself.